Showing posts from December, 2017


Peace is sitting quietly in stillness, or sitting with our pets, allowing all thoughts and feelings to permeate our souls, accepting them all as they are today, and  welcoming who we are with all our warts and all our beauty. Peace is accepting where we come from and all our ancestors for who they are and also feeling our yearnings and desires for more or for something else.  Peace is listening quietly to another and holding our tongues when we disagree so that we can just listen and learn from another whom we might be angry with, disagree with, dislike, and to instead listen, learn and see where their words and actions touch us.  Peace is letting our toxic places inside have some air so we can let go of the old festering wounds.  Peace is listening to music, walking in nature, building a fire, being ourselves and being ok with ourselves. Peace is. Happy Holidays, and may peace be with you, Gail My soothing words of wisdom for the week is about pe

Feeling v Reacting

Sometimes we are so immersed in being angry or frantic or upset that we think that is us feeling our feelings. What we are doing when we feel that way is that we are either reacting to the deep feelings coming up within us or we are experiencing deep feelings without words so that we have no way to categorize or to understand the deep things coming up inside of us. Either way, experiencing such terrible feelings or reactions can be no fun and very disturbing. I have a patient who experiences this phenomenon frequently. Suddenly she becomes terribly frantic and upset. Often in those times she is unable to be the detective and to figure out what set her off. Sometimes it just takes lots of stuff to do or something she read and she is off and running, with no off button in sight. One day in the recent past this occurred again. She phoned me in a state of panic. She asked me if I was trying to rub salt in her wound by writing what I did as an affirmation for her. No, I was not