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Compromise As A Gift

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Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change we seek. -Barack Obama
When we think of the word compromise, we often think of it in a negative sense. In relationships compromise can be necessary. This is not a compromise of the self, but a noticing and an awareness of the other as separate from us and also that there is great importance to valuing the other as equally important as we are. I don`t know about you but it can be difficult for me to find that beautiful dance between honoring myself and honoring my partner or any relationship. Partners can be more difficult because it is a daily living continual dance. 
I had an experience recently where my partner had a day where he was in his own space and it seemed to me that he wasn`t able that day to be in an emotional space in which the two of us could occupy space. This happens to all of us at times. I think this becomes a problem when it happens m…

Feeling Numb

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"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from indomitable will.” -Mahatma Gandhi
Have you ever felt that you had so much going on, or so many feelings that instead of being able to feel them you actually do the opposite and feel numb? I see that a lot when I work with patients on a physical level through chiropractic work. When muscles get so tense and what I call splinted that they don`t or can`t respond as they should, there is often a sense of numbness instead of pain or discomfort. I often do accompanying muscle work with my patients to help to restore natural movement and to release tension and to help adjustments hold. When the muscles get splinted or tight frequently they experience a lack of feeling rather than intense feeling. It is when the muscle releases that they begin to feel pain. The same holds true for us emotionally.
I was speaking with a friend recently and she was explaining how with the revelations that she was making regarding her father, she fe…